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I've been reading back posts about Linnea when she was Emer's age, and it's amazing how many people suggested stickers, praise, and bribes to help handle some of the disciplinary stuff. Having met Emer, I can kind of see why - that would probably work, for Emer.

For Linnea, very little works, in terms of bribery. If a bribe is offered of anything she feels she can live without - which is most things - she will go to great lengths to un-earn it, to prove she doesn't need it; she will also sneak around and get it by nefarious means. Twice I've had to go nuclear on the threats-of-consequence, too - once when my mother was over, and again today. Generally, I count to three, and it is all sorted out. That's much more pleasant.

Emer can be bribed. It's much easier. I only hope it lasts. But I have no idea how to make it happen - she's always been very compliant, except in re oral interference - I can't tie it to anything we do to, with or for her. Well, when I say very compliant, I mean in comparison to Linnea, really.

Halp. Send gin.

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Date: 2009-02-25 04:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] livi-short.livejournal.com
They sound so much like Sue and Trish. I love to hear of siblings that are opposites, there own 'person'. I think it shows good parenting but then I am biased.

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Date: 2009-02-25 06:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tiggsybabes.livejournal.com
Mine can both be bribed by the same thing. Currently, it's Easter chicks, as I bought a big box of them from Home Bargains. Neither has realised that they could get the box down & take the whole lot.

They collect them in different ways though. Kate has put hers together to make something with at some point, Holly puts them in her pocket to take to nursery to show her friends & they then get lost or damaged.

Does empathy work with Linnea? One of the things I learned on one of my many courses, was that they are taught at school to empathise with the other person in a disagreement & to think about how their actions affect others. They are also taught to get their anger out by stamping or shouting or telling someone. I do see Kate doing this. "I AM ANGRY" *stamp, stamp, stamp*

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Date: 2009-02-25 11:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] heraldis.livejournal.com
My two are the same, although the other way round. R, the older, is very bribable. M, the younger (and a boy) just isn't bovvered. He will even go sit on the stairs cos he feels like it, thus negating that punishment!

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Date: 2009-02-26 03:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] radegund.livejournal.com
*gins you*

Tough stuff, this parenting.

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