We didn't get legally married because we don't trust the government, and marriage is a hugely complex legal contract that can be changed by the government any time without our consent.
When we thought we would have kids, we were concerned about how to legally ascertain fatherhood, but we read some legal self-help books that indicated there were ways to do this. But we decided not to have kids, so it turned out not to be an issue.
Privilege is involved in our being able to comfortably choose not to be legally married - we have enough money to hire lawyers to write specific contracts about what we want, and our parents on both sides support our relationship, and (US-centric) we can both afford our own health insurance.
Privilege would of course also be involved if we had decided to get legally married, since we are an opposite-sex couple. Although in California there are some legal rights granted to same-sex couples, at least today.
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When we thought we would have kids, we were concerned about how to legally ascertain fatherhood, but we read some legal self-help books that indicated there were ways to do this. But we decided not to have kids, so it turned out not to be an issue.
Privilege is involved in our being able to comfortably choose not to be legally married - we have enough money to hire lawyers to write specific contracts about what we want, and our parents on both sides support our relationship, and (US-centric) we can both afford our own health insurance.
Privilege would of course also be involved if we had decided to get legally married, since we are an opposite-sex couple. Although in California there are some legal rights granted to same-sex couples, at least today.